Who decided that FAT was going to be the negative word of the social vocabulary book?
Fat is just ugly. The word I mean. It's not fun to say, it's not a good way to look at it. It is not the way you should think of someone!
A wonderful and dear person in my life, my therapist [aka, my SAVIOR!] gave me a book to read titled Fat is a Feminist Issue...The Anti-Diet Guide to Permanent Weight Loss written by Susie Orbach. I just got the book maybe 2 hours ago and I'm not too far into it, but the book is amazing! The first page gives insightful information!
There was a specific section in the beginning I would like to share and just put out there for everyone to hear and understand.
'Overeating and obesity have been reduced to character defects, rather than perceived as the expression of painful and conflicting experiences.'
EXACTLY! Like hello!!!! I'm so tired of being looked at like I DID SOMETHING WRONG! LIKE I FAILED! LIKE I DON'T BELONG BECAUSE I HAVE MORE OF A STOMACH THAN YOU!!!
Like get with it people! I cannot stress this enough!
And I wish, I REALLY WISH, that some of the people who enjoy making fun of me and looking at me funny in school would read this and get it through their thick heads that I, and every other overweight woman out there IS JUST LIKE YOU BUT MORE HUMBLE AND YOU WILL NEVER UNDERSTAND LOVE AND APPRECIATION LIKE WE DO!
...that was my rant for the day.. If more ranting comes, do not be surprised.
The last quote I am going to give from this book is my favorite so far and everything I have ever though of being overweight is in this one statement.
'Fat is a social disease, and fat is a feminist issue. Fat is NOT about lack of self-control or lack of will power. Fat is about protection, sex, nurturing, strength, boundaries, mothering, substance, assertion, and rage.'
Yes...Yes it is GOSH DARN IT! [I would have said something more harsh if I didn't have family reading this ;)]
I just don't understand why I, at age 17, who has been through a lot in just a few years, has to be put down like I am..just for what I look like.
I don't want to be looked at like I failed. I don't want people to see me and say 'oh she failed because she didn't treat her body right' or something ridiculous. Feelings, and cluelessness, and self anger has led me to who I am. BUT, so has love, lessons, learning, creation, and meaning!
I'm a human being and I am tired of being looked at like I'm FAT. Because being fat is over! I will change this and I am inspired to change the world and to change what people see when they see the word FAT or a FAT person. This will end...And my end, begins now.
thank you...
and I really am..
-learningasigo
Love those quotes! Like I always say, "No one is fat; we're simply obtuse. There's just more of us to love!" (:
ReplyDeleteWOWSIE!!! You amaze me more and more every day...and with every post! I can tell you that I SO relate to every word...and feeling in this post. Throughout much of my life, I too felt completely judged as soon as I walked into a room. It is a sick and disgusting part of our society. I am so glad that part of your Mission is to help change this! I admire the determination and dedication you are making at'learningasyougo'!!! I love you!
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This is really amazing Alexa. It's understandable, the kind of crap people would give to us if we're not completely perfect all the way around. I, on the other hand also have dealt with being called both "fat" and "anorexic". Whether I look the part or not, but strangely, people notice the way we eat and apparently I guess I have an eating disorder. In the past I struggled with being too skinny & at the same time people called me anorexic which made me decide to continuously stuff myself with food, depressing isn't it? Yes, the words people say can really cause a person deep emotional pain :/ But I've learned in the last couple of years, that people are going to attack us with words anyways. It's our body and they can't change it! So I've decided since then to live for myself and change for only myself. I eat a lot without a care that I will become overweight and I would hit the gym every evening at 7. But what my point really is, is that sometimes, we can only take the painful words that people say and turn them into friendly advices. We can change for ourselves so that we can become happier with ourselves. I just want you to know, you're not going through this alone Alexa, we all been through the same pain and that's why we are here for you. Keep believing in yourself and change only for your own happiness. Hope everything goes well for you Alexa, we all believe in your dream and goals! :)
ReplyDeleteThanks Roseate. :) You're words are imprinted in my mind. I hate that no matter what you are, there will be some sort of judgement. I just don't want to be either!
ReplyDeleteBut thank you so much! :)